I have a personal aversion to the usage of the phrase “That’s gay!”. I frequently have to tell people how offensive I consider it. I’ve had several discussions with people, and they claim that the context in which they use the word “gay” clears them from being a gay basher and that they’re not gay bashing at all. Most people look at me and say “What’s your problem?”.
I guess my longstanding dislike of gay bashing language originates from long ago when I worked as an engineer in the defense industry. There was a transsexual in my company, and he became a pariah in an environment that was clearly anti-gay. I felt that it took a lot of courage for him to come out. This was in 1982 when sexual openness was uncool.
That was one out of many reasons I moved across the country and out of the defense contractor work.
To this day, gay bashing is a very sensitive issue to me. Why? I suppose I’ve always considered myself an underdog in society and feel more compassion towards my fellow underdogs.
So, yeh, if I had my druthers, society would make up a better phrase than “That’s gay!” for describing something or someone that they don’t like.